a new understanding

as we tucked bug into bed she told us very frankly

"she doesn't like me"

we weren't sure who she was speaking of

then she explained "the woman who had me in her belly..

she doesn't like me"

we assured her this wasn't true and promised to chat about it more in the morning

we sat on our porch and decided how to address her statement as a team

we knew this was coming

its pretty much on target for the age the adoption literature states these questions start to form

over breakfast we asked her how she came to this conclusion

she explained "well she left me at the hospital and the orphanage.

 if she liked me she wouldn't have done that"

ouch

it hurts my heart for her to feel and think this

we explained what info we had on her bio-parents

ages, appearances and circumstances of placement into the baby home

we also mildly explained the birds and bees

after we were done she said "okay"

smiled and went on to tells us about something she drew

so many of conversations happen like this

comes up all of sudden and leaves just as fast