we completed the adoption classes in march
and got our little certificate
then we were approved by the
snap council in indianapolis in april
we located a little girl right away on adoptuskids.org
and inquired about her with guarded hopes and she was placed
the next day with another family
we were told about two sibling groups two weeks in a row
one the girls were out of our age range
the other was a large group of siblings that we knew we
couldn't accommodate
we located another little one in another state and inquired but haven't heard back
from the sw yet...its been almost 3 weeks
and just sent an inquiry about 2 sisters today
this process has been so different than the one to find bug
i just knew i had people looking out of me and didn't really worry
i knew we would find a child who matched our family
this journey i feel a little out in left field
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people we have met along the way have been nice but
they seem to have their own ideas of what is best for us
very different advice and information
so we have learned to sort through it
(with a little help from a curly haired friend)
i have also feel like we are competing for children we
are interested in and i am getting the feeling
that the social workers don't seem to
see us as ...people ...a family
we either don't get a response from inquiries or
a simple 'placed' as a reply
i want to say 'hey! we had a little hope wrapped into that email sent!"
how about 'sorry but we placed her with another family
good luck on your journey'
it would be very nice and encouraging
and really does it take that much longer to write the above
response?
we have included bug on all children we have been sent or asked about
explaining the process to her as we go
it appears to be abstract to her tat this point
she hasn't asked too many questions
and it hasn't raised any interesting conversations
yet
i can tell you she was very excited about the large sibling group
we were shown until we told her with that many children
we would probably never be able to go out for dinner again
which led to a prompt, "oh...i don't want that many sisters."
guess we know where she stands!
2 comments:
It's amazing how it somehow seems to work out in the end and how without the timing of the e-mails that come back with the "placed" response, perhaps you wouldn't arrive at the child(ren) that are meant to be yours. During our adoption journeys, there were so many things that made no sense at the time, but when we were able to look back on later, it all led us to our children. All the best to you on this second adoption!
i totally agree! thank you for your well wishes! i just wish the case workers and social workers working with the children and families in the state system treated the families wishing to adopt a little more professionally and with some sense of empathy. its a journey for all involved and everyone should be treated as such.
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